Doc Love (a.ok.a. Thomas Hodges) is an internationally identified courting and relationship coach for males. His data and knowledge comes from having interviewed over 10,000 ladies over the last 35 years and posing elementary questions on why a lady chooses to depart one man and stick with one other. He has additionally interviewed a number of males which can be ‘naturals’ on this space and by no means have bother getting and protecting ladies.
Doc Love’s thorough evaluation of knowledge gathered from his interviews has culminated in 4 volumes of labor:
- THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY
- MASTERY I
- MASTERY II
- MASTERY III
THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY is the fundamental course that units the inspiration for the whole lot else. As soon as the coed (whom Doc Love refers to as ‘Spartan-In-Coaching’) totally internalises it, he can transfer on to the superior Mastery Sequence.
THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY covers some particular ideas and elements concerned within the dynamics of any relationship. A few of them are as follows:
Curiosity Stage: Simply as Location is the whole lot in the actual property enterprise, a lady’s Curiosity Stage is the whole lot within the courting sport. Curiosity Stage (IL briefly) principally refers to how strongly she is interested in you.
When her IL is excessive, she makes the whole lot straightforward for you, does something to make you content and at all times finds a cause to be with you. Then again, when her IL is low, she begins to make some attention-grabbing excuses to keep away from being with you. Curiosity Stage is a dynamic issue and the person’s actions will decide whether or not it rises up or falls down.
Problem = How powerful it’s for the girl to win you over. In case you simply flip for a beautiful lady, then you’re a zero problem for her, as a result of she must do completely nothing to win you over! As a substitute, in the event you set your requirements larger and anticipate not solely bodily attractiveness, but additionally correct respectful behaviour, honesty, integrity and a versatile perspective, then she must work so much more durable to win you over. Within the latter case, you are displaying extra problem.
Confidence: This has two sub-components – Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem.
Self-Confidence = How strongly you consider in your self. Whereas it’s attainable to ‘pretend it till you make it’, actual confidence comes from product data of life basically and ladies specifically…..and your demonstrated means within the software of the identical.
Self-Esteem = How a lot you worth your self. That is the place it is very important say no to a lady infrequently, specifically when you already know that she is asking for one thing that might compromise your integrity. Ladies typically do that to check you! However in the event you maintain your floor throughout such events, her IL rises up. Then again, in the event you give in, her IL drops.
Management: This has three elements – Persistence, Self-Self-discipline and Self-Management (be aware that it doesn’t check with controlling the girl, which is definitely not possible!)
The three C’s talked about above – Problem, Confidence and Management – are the masculine metal traits that elevate a lady’s Curiosity Stage. A person must practise all of them collectively to lift the girl’s Curiosity Stage. If her Curiosity Stage drops, it is extremely probably that he’s lacking out on at the very least one of many 3 C’s.
As soon as a lady’s Curiosity Stage rises over 95%, you’re by no means unsuitable in her eyes! And that’s the place it is advisable be so as to have a contented relationship. Nonetheless, there’s additionally a set of masculine velvet traits that it is advisable practise so as to preserve her Curiosity Stage excessive. These are: Affection, Respect, Romance and Humour.
In case you fail to practise these velvet traits, her Curiosity Stage will drop.
Doc Love’s THE SYSTEM – DATING DICTIONARY focusses extra on long-term relationships than short-term flings. And so as to have a contented relationship that lasts for all times, Doc Love teaches you that other than gauging a lady’s Curiosity Stage, you additionally must gauge her Angle.
To be extra exact, you date her Curiosity Stage, however you marry her Angle.
So far as a lady’s perspective is anxious, she must have the next non-negotiables:
- She should be self-reliant
- She should have a excessive shallowness
- She should have a versatile nature
- She should be a giver
- She should have integrity, which in flip is comprised of loyalty, honesty and trustworthiness.
Observe that it’s attainable for a girl to have a really excessive Curiosity Stage in you; but when she has a awful perspective then she is going to solely find yourself reducing your curiosity degree in her over the lengthy haul. And this may make you depressing, specifically in the event you get caught in a loveless marriage.
Doc Love’s THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY additionally teaches you that when a lady’s IL goes under 50%, then it could by no means be introduced again up. So the connection is over for all sensible functions. Nonetheless, whereas most males would depart a relationship when their IL drops under 50%, ladies normally wait till their IL drops under 40%, due to their nesting nature.
And it could take a very long time….probably greater than 10-20 years for this to occur (i.e. for her Curiosity Stage to fall from 49% to 39%). However throughout this era, you’ve nearly zero likelihood of reviving her attraction for you. The connection turns right into a rut, and sure, you’ll have to put up together with her incessant nagging, arguing, mood tantrums and disrespectful behaviour basically.
However as soon as it goes under 40%, she has already constructed up sufficient resentment and hatred in direction of you that offsets the nesting issue…and consequently she turns into extraordinarily vicious! That is if you hear about a lot of males being falsely accused of rape, abuse or home violence and being despatched to jail on false expenses! I am certain you should have come throughout at the very least one male pal of yours that went by way of this nasty ordeal. Fairly a scary factor eh?!
So in the event you want to keep away from visiting a vicious anti-male household court docket; or shelling out truckloads of money to divorce attorneys; or shedding your hard-earned cash and home to a vicious ex-wife; or shedding custody of your youngsters; or shedding your sanity basically, you most positively should be geared up with superior data of ladies and courting.
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