Sex and the Surrogate
The traditional idea of surrogacy refers to the act of taking female egg and male sperm to let the baby grow in another woman’s womb (or just using the male’s sperm and other woman’s egg). Some people ask whether natural surrogacy is possible through sexual intercourse.
I must say that making love with a woman just because you want her to carry your baby – is the idea from the middle age. Modern surrogacy usually does not involve any sexual intercourse between the surrogate mom and the man willing to be a father.
But before we get to the next part, let’s get rid of some ambiguity. You must know that ‘sex surrogacy’ is a profession and it does not refer to what you understand by having sex with the surrogate mom or dad.
Here’s what a sex surrogate does…
In clinical terms, the sex surrogate is a member within the sex therapy group/team who gets engaged in close physical/sexual relations with the patient for achieving specific therapeutic goals.
The majority of the surrogates are usually women. Men become surrogates in rare cases. Would you believe that some married couples have made surrogacy as their ‘professions’?
Some surrogates regularly work at surrogacy counseling centers. You can also find surrogates who have opened offices of their own. And when a surrogate works for a counseling service, his or her job description may include telephone counseling and/or sexological bodywork.
Today, surrogates hold professional certification to show off their experience and expertise in hi-demand fields like sexuality, psychology as well as counseling. Thus they’re able to work hand in hand with psychiatrists, professional sexologists and psychologists or many other therapists to ensure the welfare of a given patient.
That was all about sex surrogates, now let’s get back to the topic.
In modern times, there are rarely any official arrangements for surrogacy through direct sexual intercourse. There are 3 basic reasons behind this.
1. Just take the root of the issue. What is a couple all about? It is about love and trust between each other. Would any one of the couple like his or her partner taking part in a sexual intercourse with a surrogate? Probably not!
2. Second, surrogacy in modern medical terms involves highly sophisticated clinical actions like artificial insemination, intrauterine insemination, gestational surrogacy or intracervical insemination.
On the other hand, sexual intercourse for surrogacy is a thing from medieval era, where women were chosen to have sex with the male and to give the baby away to that couple in exchange of a payment.
Such cases are not common these days. After all, the big idea behind the advent of sophisticated surrogacy centers were to let people avoid the sexual intercourse for surrogacy.
3. Surrogacy involves a lot of legal issues along with super-sophisticated clinical actions from highly expert professionals. So even if you escape the involvement of medical professionals by doing it by sexual intercourse, you can’t deny the legal bondage’s.
And what about the emotional attachment between the surrogate mom and the baby? In sophisticated and artificial surrogacy, all these are handled by involving contract signing and carefully choosing and preparing the donor.
So, emotional bondage is carefully avoided here. But despite the fact that ‘sexual intercourse’ sounds natural, real sexual intercourse has every chance of getting the whole thing beyond control.
Surrogacy via sexual intercourse is less common.